Friday, December 6, 2013

Teaching your child resilience

This is a very important topic.   I am a child Psychologist and this is very important for parents to teach there children; but most parents don't.  I will give you tips on teaching your child resilience.

  • Give your child independence; when they are trying  something new like climbing at the play ground or opening a container. Even if you think its to hard for them, LET THEM TRY.

  • Give your child the opportunity to wait patiently when required. I know so of you are thinking it is impossible and sometimes it is.  Trust me I know I have 3 children and it seems like they all start crying or something when I am trying to wait on something. 

  • Do not give your child everything they desire(toys, foods, clothes ect.) This is hard to do when your in the store and your child starts screaming that they want a  toy or candy.  I usually say a firm "NO" and keep going if they continue then stop and say "Yes, you can have it another day".  If they still continue I usually leave the store and we sit in the car until they calm down.
 
  • Teach your child to identify struggles as a challenge they can over come.  And teach them a phrase like "Every challenge makes you stronger".  A lot of people get very stressed over challenges and not sure how to face them or just ignore them all together.  If you do this you are teaching your child this.  When they can over come challenges than they can do anything. 



  • When your child is looking for something let them look for it themselves.

I have seen my children get very upset trying to do things and say "I cant do this".  I usually respond with "you can do it". If they need help after trying them take them through the steps and show them how to do it. 

Teaching your children this will have major affects on them as adults and are usually very successful and can take on anything without falling to depression and anxiety.

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