Boost your childs Self Esteem

• Always try to make positive comments - as a parent you have great influence over your child. This will make your child feel wanted and appreciated.
   
• Spend time together. You are busy, I know but to help your child you need to spend quality time together. This will also help your children build a closer bond with you.

 

• Listen rather than talk. Your young child needs to express him/ herself and you should listen and try to understand. Listening to your children teaches them to be open and express their feelings.  This will also build a strong trust between you and your children.
   
• Focus on the positive. It is so important to show that a positive attitude leads to happiness and success. Always focus and praise your child for what they do well. Don’t point out their weaknesses, If they do something wrong. Show them that this is how we do it.  Always praise, even for the smallest things.

  

• Focus on the behavior not your child – When your child is misbehaving the key to remember is negative behavior gets no attention and positive gets attention. What I am trying to say is when your child is crying and throwing things, or whatever. Walk to them and say in a lower voice “When you calm down then we can talk about it.” Then walk away. Don’t stand there trying to talk to them, they aren’t listening to you.  Don’t speak to them until they calm down and come to you.  When they have calmed down tell them “I like the way you calmed yourself down.” See you focus on the positive behavior. This way they know hey I’m not going to get any attention when I’m bad, but they will give me attention when I’m good.  This will make a big difference. Trust me I know this is very hard to do, I have 3 all under 5. And one with disabilities, it’s very hard. You mostly just have to train yourself. 
• Give your children 3 praises a day.